tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-41606670148148171082024-03-12T18:58:35.160-04:00Look Up OftenJesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.comBlogger232125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-9114880904949879712017-07-29T14:39:00.003-04:002017-07-29T14:39:40.465-04:00When is Enough? <h1 class="quoteText" style="background-color: white; color: #181818; font-weight: normal; line-height: 21px; margin: 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">
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Work has rapidly become more than I can handle in addition to school. Longer hours compiled with increasingly difficult work has made focusing and being awake enough at night to study almost impossible. We worked 6 days a week for a while. </div>
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Already, I barely make it to the gym to two classes a week <i>total</i> when I used to be there two classes a night, <i>minimum. </i>My beloved motorcycle, Sebastian, still sits half- road-ready in the shop in the old post office building on Cumberland St. There's not much else that can give. </div>
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I, like many people in their twenties, still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I like many things. One of the guys at work who's been at the company for 30 years and I stopped at Burger King for lunch (I packed a lunch). Well, George makes more money than most of us since he's a class A operator and his father worked at the company his whole life and now George's son is there as well. I don't think he's ever seriously thought about anything else. He asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up and between bites of lettuce, I said I wasn't sure but nursing seemed like a good direction next but I liked who I've been so far. </div>
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But now I am not sure where to head. This year I've cut back on or haven't done the two things I love and make me the happiest I've ever been: training and my motorcycle. For what? Money. A job that provides me the ability to live for another year of school that will also prevent me from having time/money to do those things next year. that bring a lot of joy and happiness in life. It's fine if it's in the future that I'll be able to do those things, but how could that end up being? And what if I didn't make it to that period of life, or "life happens"?</div>
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Do I really want to be a nurse or do I want the lifestyle it could potentially provide? Is there anything wrong with a job that pays the bills? People have lived fantastic lives that way. But not everyone is built for that. </div>
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WHAT IS LIFE SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE?</div>
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You get one life and by the time you'll have it remotely figured it out you'll be long dead. Which is a total crock in my opinion. </div>
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I want to travel, fight, write, love, work with teenage girls, and ride my motorcycle at sunset into the darkness with the lightning bugs streaming by- a cacophony of crickets and cicadas as my escort. To be content with doing small things with someone I love and have meaningful work that isn't killing me like my current job. </div>
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Unfortunately, this doesn't sound terribly like the path I'm currently on. </div>
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I listen to <a href="http://www.madfientist.com/podcast" target="_blank">The Mad Fientist podcast</a> which is pretty great, it's on financial independence and interviews people from all kinds of circumstances and backgrounds about how they became FI. But this one hosted interview was a panel at <a href="https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/about/" target="_blank">Mr. Money Mustache</a>'s "Camp Mustache" and one lady said something I actually wrote down, "You can have anything but not everything and every dollar you spend is a trade off for something else." </div>
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This goes for our time as well. It's good, right?</div>
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Jimmy: You know that beef ain't right. Got a different texture than any beef you'll ever have. </div>
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Denny: Hey, you gotta pair of tweezers? Have a steel sliver.</div>
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Me: I have... a utility knife?</div>
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We've almost finished the deck for the big pour tomorrow night. By we, I mean largely the iron workers who killed it laying steel. They dance more than any laborers I've ever seen and randomly shout in deep voices to one another. Other times they sing like in-patients from an asylum under their breath as they pass by. Our guys have done a lot; everything besides the steel. </div>
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I've noticed I've thinned out. Rather, my dad noticed and then I did. I weigh the same but have leaner muscle than ever and probably ever will have again. </div>
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Another story about Marty the truck driver. He's also one of my favourites. </div>
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Marty: You know, I wanna get a tattoo one day. A compass, right here on my forearm.</div>
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Marty: Well, see, I like pain. Sometimes I'm standing in the kitchen and my back starts to hurt from, well, all this (gestures to the truck and stacked trailers he's hauling). And when it's botherin' me, I turn to my wife and I tell her to give me a good crack. </div>
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Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-17118855411532432022017-06-26T19:01:00.004-04:002017-06-26T19:01:46.998-04:00(Shit) I'm Learning as a Construction Worker"Hey Pigeon, I have another shit job for you."<div>
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That's it. This is my life. For the last five and a half months I've been working construction. It's been the hardest I've ever worked. Like the hardest day of work I've ever had is my whole day, every day for 10 hours <i>if </i>we only work a ten hour day. Two weeks ago was four nights of overnights with 12-13 hour shifts. Last week was mostly 10-12 hr. This week is looking like 12. </div>
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Don't get me wrong, I make terrific money. But here's another conversation from last week with Clive the Jamaican:</div>
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"What are you going to do with all of the money you're making from this job?</div>
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In January I should be (providing I manage to finish the last four pre-requisites I'm currently taking) starting an 11 month full-time program with the University of Rochester School of Nursing. I'll be an R.N. after I get out. I'm in the very middle of a long three years. Taking classes, trying to continue kickboxing and jiu jitsu at the same intensity, and working has proven to be a lot more than I could have anticipated. </div>
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However, most of the time the job is great. The guys I work with and situations are unforgettable. I could write an entire comic strip or book on the shit I hear and do. I signed up for a cushy 7-4, Monday- Friday job as a flag person... Like what most women do in construction companies, annnnnd apparently most women at this company do. Somehow I've earned the honorary position of "working harder than most, eh, probably all, the other women" at the company. Which out of a hundred or so employees, is a grand total of about 8% of the company but I'll take it. I'm a laborer that sometimes gets to do carpentry work, sometimes drives the biggest dumptrucks I've ever seen, and even once learned to use the backhoe to dump stone into the dumptruck I was driving and haul it back and forth by myself. </div>
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We're building a bridge over a highway now. We're tearing one down and putting a new one up. Until the same is done to this one many years down the road, I'll be able to drive under and over this bridge and know how it was built. I can tell you how many pieces of rebar are in the pedestals because I tied them in there. I know how many forms it took to pour the concrete because I was in a harness hanging off the wall beating the clamps on and inside crawling around picking up wire and tying rebar with Matt before it was solid concrete. </div>
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As my dad said, I'll remember this year for the rest of my life. When I can't wait for work to be over some days, I remember it's financially giving me a lot but more than that is the intangible, priceless skills and memories I'll always have. I'll have a lot of pride for sticking it out, I imagine. And knowledge that if I could do this year, I could do almost any other year that comes down the pipe.</div>
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The thing I'm learning about life was worded best by Bruce Lee. A few years ago I was overwhelmed by far less than this. Felt physically hurt and weak by far less. If one presses on, one does not return to that state. You simply learn and are capable of more. And the harder a thing is, often the more worthwhile. </div>
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The way I love a couple of people.<br />
In an underlying, irrelevant-of-all-else fashion.<br />
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Yesterday, in a thaw, the air smelled of Dar and Zanzibar.<br />
I spent the morning, measuring out steel in layers of clothes,<br />
Walking barefoot through Stonetown.<br />
Waving to the dark throbbing of the port.<br />
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The air slowly froze, the ground began to crust under our boots.<br />
We sank in the mud, bursting beneath the frosted layer<br />
Like the first plunge into a merengue.<br />
In the afternoon, with the hammering rain, soaked through, I forgot<br />
The smell of the morning.<br />
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And in the morning when I slip the ancient coin<br />
That hangs on the silver chain<br />
That I once picked out of the shop,<br />
Nine years ago.<br />
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A decade goes by quickly.<br />
But when you love something,<br />
As I love the sea,<br />
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The smell of fish and ancient concrete,<br />
Reminded me of another place, another truer self.<br />
Timing is everything, and timing has dealt brutal lessons.<br />
What matters, is that one continues on.<br />
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Symptoms: I almost came down with a sinus infection and have been congested. Worst of all, the cool mental clarity I'd been experiencing almost instantly vanished.<br />
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It was like when you're driving along and your windshield fogs up. Except it was my primary modus operandi that was fogging up. Back on a clean diet as of today. Made some bomb-ass Indian style food tonight.<br />
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Trained every night this week and felt more beat up after two nights of jiu jitsu than I had after the fight. I told this to a teammate last night as we watched the fights and he laughed because IT'S TRUE. Jiu jitsu is hard on the body. Also, during commercials he played John Mayer, Relient K, and Ed Sheeran exceptionally on the guitar. Because those two hobbies go together. We're not your average meatheads.<br />
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This last week, with the fight over and some spare time for once, I've been considering what direction to go in life more permanently. I keep coming back to how short the time of a fighter is. Jiu jitsu can last a lifetime (somehow... although you might be a cripple) but Muay Thai really reaches a denouement around age 30. There's a lot I'd like to do in the future that wouldn't permit training. Which is okay, but sometimes the timing isn't right and to rush decisions that would be best acted upon in the future can be detrimental if they're made too early. Which sucks, but it creates a mental state of training very intentionally since it's looking like I'll have to enjoy it while it lasts. For the first time, I think I'm actually being honest with myself about where I want to be in 10 years and how I'd like to live my life.<br />
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Fighting and training has not given me a purpose to life, but has changed my way of thinking a great deal. Training, to me at least, has been like I think the Church should be for people. Or a family should be. It has been an invaluable way of sorting myself out in ways I thought would take a lifetime.<br />
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The first round and a half, we felt one another out. It became steadily clearer that my plan of uppercuts to get away could be avoided completely by utilizing my reach and tagging her to maintain distance while getting solid connection. When she did get in, I clinched her and threw the full weight of my legs into a knee to her body. I knew it was sloppy but it was a fight and that's how it was. She wasn't as aggressive as we had anticipated, or rather, as my teammates and coaches had foreseen, she wasn't dishing out any punches I hadn't been hit with a lot harder before. As my dad would remark on later when he recovered from the trauma of watching, "You can take a punch... and you give it right back."<br />
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"That was the best fight of the night," the ref said taking our hands as we awaited the judge's scores. We had been a good match-up. My height gave me an advantage that leveled out her experience and a heavy right hand that had caught me a couple of times. With blood staining her mouth and marks on her face, she thanked me for a good fight and we told each other we'd done well. </div>
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Both my hands flew up in victory. There was no questioning it, the moment was mine. I'd fought for it and reveled in the crowd's cheers. Through the black cage, the shadowed faces applauded the win and the fight. "Love is what makes us great, and this display of strength, heart, and love is what brings us all to the fights," Sam Sheridan writes in <i>A Fighter's Heart. </i>Everyone was there to see a display of human work and sacrifice and to see who had gameness, who had the fight in them that night. </div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Tearing through the pages of Sam Sheridan's book I found what I desperately needed to have in my head complete, "The key to understanding dogfighting is the concept of <i>gameness</i>. Gameness could be described as courage, but that's simplistic. I've heard gameness described as 'being willing to continue a fight in the face of death,' and that's closer; it's the eagerness to get into the fight, the beserker rage, and then the absolute commitment to the fight in the face of pain, and disfigurement, until death. It's heart, as boxing writers sometimes describe it, with a dark edge, a self-destructive edge; because true gameness doesn't play it smart, it just keeps coming and coming. No matter what." </span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Shuffling to another hatch mark, "after training five months, he could feel the presence of God in a fight... in his 'deep waters,' he comes faces to face with divinity- and is reborn on the other side." </span></div>
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #444444;">"Think about what you're going to do to her," Coach Wally reminded me. Focused me. I had the worst wedgie of my life and my gloves were taped on. He tried to help tug my shorts down with little avail. </span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">They called me over. <i>Fuck it. </i>A wedgie wasn't going to end me. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">I discovered this song via the Spotify charts for New Zealand. They're always ahead of the U.S. in solid music. The Greatest by Sia is my favourite jam right now (video below). I heard it and was like, "<i>God damn</i>, YES." </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">"<span style="background-color: white; color: #0e0f32; letter-spacing: 0.715px;">Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you </span><em style="background-color: white; color: #0e0f32; letter-spacing: 0.715px;">not</em><span style="background-color: white; color: #0e0f32; letter-spacing: 0.715px;"> to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">The part you never see and rarely is talked about is how much a fighter's personal life impacts their training and thinking. I've seen more than a couple friends and training partners pull out of fights because their personal life finally infiltrated their training. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Half-way through camp, I almost unconsciously began tying up loose ends and attempting to make peace in my own life. I wanted to fight unfettered by problems that have solutions if only I would take action on them. I quit two jobs (took another for less pay but that I love), saw someone that had left a devastating mark on my life but needed to see, and much to my surprise was honest with myself about some other feelings. It felt good, man.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;"> You can't live your life letting stupid shit get to you when you have the power to do something about it. I've felt freed by being truest to myself; it's always a process but there are certainly times where there's shit you gotta take care of and if you don't it'll poison your whole life. It eats at the back of your mind until its destroying you physically and mentally when all the while we often have the ability to take back that shine Williamson talks about. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">So I took out my motorcycle because on it I relax and can think clearly. It's like a magic potion to take that cures what ails you or at least gives you this out-of-body, objective clarity. I know I love my motorcycle and am secure in that so as a result can consider what else is important. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">And after that, I took a left away from town instead of a right to the city and cruised around a bit more. Slowly the sun began to shift the shadows above the ground and slid itself into the trees. It slowly shifted its light so the trees by the lake water sang with color as if they were those puff ball mushrooms popped in the woods. The small inlets off the road that run under it from the sea-like expanse of water were still and bloody with the red leaves huddling together in the water as if some battle had been fought. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">The whole day changed after that ride. I ended up back at the layman's gym and warmed up in the sauna a bit to sweat a little more water out (but mostly to warm up since the sun setting began to cause my significantly leaner ass to freeze). My weight was below and I was sure of it this time. I was early to weigh-ins at another local fighting gym and four pounds below the acceptable weight. Water has never tasted so sweet.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Whatever the outcome of tomorrow is, I am grateful to be here, where I am now with the decisions I've made in life and the training I have put in for almost two years. Moving forward, I sense a change in the winds coming which I've learned we can allow to pass through us on by or we can set our sails and ride with them. I intend to ride them out this time. </span><br />
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<br />Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-16676205370056295962016-11-18T00:11:00.002-05:002016-11-18T00:11:30.665-05:00Showing Up- The Last DayI want this.<br />
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I lay my damp red and black hand wraps linger patiently across the stair bannister in the hall. They hang quietly near the ever-still golden pathos that hangs from the second floor to the first in the gap of the stairwell.<br />
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At the gym tonight our jump ropes beat the mats at intervals, sometimes in tandem, as rain <i>pat pat pats</i> on a corrugated roof. Tonight was different though. It was the last night of the gym before the fights.<br />
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Everything was the last time before the fights.<br />
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Last combat conditioning.<br />
Last bags and pad work.<br />
Before that it was the last time I'd visit my grandmother who has no idea I have a fight coming up.<br />
Last chiropractor appointment.<br />
Last massage tonight from a teammate Jake.<br />
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There is no smell to the gym. Coach Wally works hard to keep everything clean so somehow there are little to no dust bunnies in the corners and we wipe the mats down every night.<br />
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After sparring was over, we all reconvened in a circle. There was three of us four fighters there tonight doing pads since the hard sparring was over last week. Everyone there went around and told each fighter something they'd notice that could help them in their fight.<br />
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Malik has been a stand-out this fight camp. At nineteen, a sometimes rugby player, Nas afficionado, and a recruit in the Rochester Firefighter academy, he never seems to get tired. He encourages us all and focuses us. He's incredibly obnoxious when he wants to be in your face during sparring with his long arms making him impossible to retaliate on with anything but kicks.<br />
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That is about the only thing I remember my teammates mentioning. Half of them I hadn't sparred with much but they remembered my kicks. Coach and a couple vets also mentioned that I'll have fun in the ring, hinting that I seem to have enjoyed the grind of this camp. It wasn't too bad until last week.<br />
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Tonight I left the gym at 156.2 so had salmon, spinach, a few slices of tomato, hummus, and a yellow pepper for dinner. I was supposed to cut out all water at noon today but sipped the last quart throughout the night. After leaving the gym almost at-weight I guzzled a raw coconut water, sipped the last of any drops left in the splay of quart mason jars scattered in my car.<br />
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The thirst that sets in makes you go a little mad. It presses on your comfort level "I deserve this" nerve the way a person pushes on a sore muscle. At first it's fine, then it feels a little good, and then it gets worse and you begin to writhe like a worm on a hook.<br />
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I was done tonight. Like so over thai pads that always slide off my arms. Over the feeling of having to pee but can't anymore because my body already has a lot of water in it but is also beginning to dehydrate.<br />
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One other thing Coach Wally mentioned is, "You'll finally get to spar with a girl." And a couple guys chimed in that she won't hit as hard as Wally's hit me or some of the other guys have. She seems aggressive but Wally hits pretty fucking hard. A lot of the guys do. I am EXCITED.<br />
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Oss.Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-19007095749154226902016-11-16T22:03:00.003-05:002016-11-16T22:03:43.355-05:00The Fight of the Mind I have changed this camp, forever. Giving up sugar and concentrating on training has definitely cleared my mind. I quit two jobs during this camp, accepted another, and am applying to two more.<br />
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This is a personal one. Tomorrow is our final day of training before the weight cut and and weigh-in.<br />
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Fighting is mental. The physical is secondary. My body has failed me with my shoulder and difficulty cutting weight despite a clean diet. Everything else has been mental.<br />
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The last couple of weeks I'd experienced increasing frustration and my body was weakening. I began to wonder if it was a problem between the ears more than on the mats.<br />
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So I sent a couple more texts from the heart since those sorts of things left unsaid or expressed tend to manifest themselves if not with the mind and mouth, by forcing their way out and destroying your body.<br />
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I also saw a person I never wanted to see again last week. It had become clear to me I needed to see him to have peace and to know how I still felt seeing him face to face. And I felt nothing. It was as if I had never left except I felt some pity for him having made the choices he had made. It has been a reminder to make decisions in my own life differently. It was a bookend to a shaping but heartbreaking chapter of my life.<br />
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None of this I say is to divulge personal information better left unsaid. This is a way for me to look back and see where I was during this camp and in life but also because I am unabashed in my own life story. If I am telling it, eons of thoughts and emotions have been processed.<br />
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I was in love once. My little dog curls up in my lap. I am struggling to find out what to do in life. This fight camp has changed my life more than a little. I am lucky to be here. Lucky to fight.Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-33440103533447061372016-11-15T23:15:00.002-05:002016-11-15T23:15:54.478-05:00Arising A quiet putter and crackle hisses in the kitchen like damp wood in the heat of the flame. Thank god a friend offered me to go in on a co-op order of wild caught Alaskan salmon a few weeks ago. It's saving me this last week dinner-wise.<br />
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An hour or so ago I was watching the sweat bead on ever pore of my legs and run in rivets as if they were following the invisible blue trail of the veins under the light Irish skin. Today was 2.5 gallons of water. Tomorrow will be three, and then Thursday only one before cutting it off almost entirely until weigh-ins Friday night at 6pm.<br />
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My body composition changes drastically from morning until afternoon as it tries to process the massive intake of water. It looks cut and like there is not much fat but carries water everywhere. After only an hour of Thai Pads I was two pounds lighter. Josh and I bounced lightly trading combos and returns. Both of us felt good. Our cardio isn't great- we're fatigued. His kicks were steady and hard as a cricket bat with each slam into my side. His face is thin and he looks older than when I started at the gym. He's lost a lot of weight training there and more in camp this time. We traded practice hits following our combos and spoke little. Coach Chris gave us some reminders.<br />
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He's been doing that every day this week; small clips of his vast knowledge with what we can utilize. Coach won't be at our fights. The ADCC (Abu Dhabi Combat Club) North American trials are being held in New Jersey the same day so he'll be there with a few of our jiu jitsu fighters. Coach Wally, the soft-spoken weapon will corner us.<br />
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Today was a breakthrough in the blues of camp. My head was clearer, my punches longer and fluid. More like how I felt before camp or half-way through.<br />
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There's a plethora of podcasts out there today but my favourite has always been NPR: TED Radio Hour. They compile related TED Talks into one cohesive talk hosted by this guy Guy. Tonight I listened to the one called <a href="http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/331331360/champions" target="_blank">Champions</a>. Diana Nyad talked about her epic swim from Cuba to Florida. She said she felt made to be a champion on a cellular level. She failed four times before successfully making the swim at 64. Four times she stood on the shore of Cuba believing she could achieve her life-long goal and four times she could not.<br />
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And yet she still believed she could. That is fascinating to me. I think it's because she believed, not that she could do it, but that that aside she knows that her in her DNA she is a champion.<br />
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While sometimes I have been champion, arguably my cellular composition is a fighter. It certainly matters if I win- that is the goal. But to fight for a goal, whatever it is, is the part that is the realest. It is the fight and struggle that I exist and glory in.<br />
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Occasionally, this reduces me like a nice jam broiled in a pot to a sobbing heap of a human when I feel I have fallen short. But most of the time it causes me to survive and to take the harder road and to struggle. To sit in the sauna until my heart races and I don't think I can last until the time is up and then to stay in an extra minute, and then another, and finally an extra five minutes. Or to push through a hundred kicks and then take the knees and kicks of your partner's body colliding with yours. You displace yourself from the beating and can feel gratitude for the hours put in that has allowed you to continue. The threshold changes every time you push yourself no matter what arena you fight in.<br />
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Unfortunately there is one fight whose outcome I cannot change: it appears I have savagely burned my salmon...Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-84492201846318137072016-11-13T23:30:00.000-05:002016-11-13T23:30:17.556-05:00To Endure & Be CourageousSo, it's about to be fight week. I've been strict on posting on days I train only, but today is my half birthday, everyone so I'm taking this day to come to a truth about myself.<div>
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I fear giving all and losing all. About sacrificing everything and still losing. About loving deeply and losing that. This is in life, in everything. In love, in relationships with people and things, and how I work and operate. </div>
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WhenI was around 6 or 7 I must have learned about loving and losing things. One night my mom left for an AA meeting and I remember I had learned somewhere about people leaving when you think you'll see them again and the possibility of them getting into an accident and dying. It's one of the few memories I have at that age and I remember it was dark out, I was standing in the kitchen, and I began crying inconsolably. </div>
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Walking down the hall this week after sparring, or as we're now referring to it as, The Great Meltdown, I realized I am terrified of envisioning myself winning and still losing. </div>
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Josh told me, after I stood up from the ground still voraciously wiping tears from my face, to put my hands up in victory. That I had to imagine myself winning. Coach said the same thing. At this point, we're conditioned, it's a mental fight this week. He told us as we circled up that he had done what he could do but only we could mentally fortify ourselves. That we had to think about what we were going to do to our opponents, instead of what they could do to us. And we had to see ourselves as the victor. </div>
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But the more I've considered it, and this is not a new train of thought, the more I realized the fact that I don't want to lift my hands after a shit round or imagine myself winning is I know this alone will not cause me to win (right, I mean good vibes are all well and good but they're not <i>that </i>good). That aside, the elephant in the room I keep bumping into and ignoring is that at my deepest core in my heart and soul, that which from all decisions and desires are born in a person, I am afraid that I will give my all and my heart and still come up short or lose it. </div>
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That's it. I fear that in love, in work, in fighting- in everything I do. </div>
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That is not something that can be fixed by Saturday night when I step into the cage. </div>
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So going into this week, I'm focusing on the privilege of being able to fight. I have arms and legs and the ability to have come this far. I've overcome sickness, injury, issues with getting blood testing, and bad days. I'm here because I've fought to be here. I've stayed because I love this realm of athleticism. </div>
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Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-28768268175236435152016-11-10T23:34:00.001-05:002016-11-10T23:34:13.119-05:00The BreakdownIt happened.<br />
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After we were done, I numbly made my way down the long hall to the bathroom and tried to throw up to alleviate the nauseous. But I don't have a gag reflex anymore (hold the jokes) from so many strep culture tests growing up, so I sank to the floor and shuddered trying to control my breathing and emotions.<br />
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From the start of class my gut felt weird and I was sluggish. Maybe it was all the uncertainty and actual blood drawing, or stress, or lack of sleep, or just my body and mind resisting being uncomfortable.<br />
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Josh had gone a light round with me before and during hard sparring it sank in that he was still going relatively light and I was completely gassing out. I wanted to be done. My ears tuned themselves to nothing more than to wait for the double beep of 30 seconds remaining.<br />
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Malik was last. And I wanted to give up. In a fight, it would've been called and I would have lost by TKO. I wanted to take the punches but couldn't give any back. He was relentless and my arms wanted nothing to do with it, my legs flailed weakly, and he began to drop his hands to let me hit him a few times so, presumably, I wouldn't totally lose heart.<br />
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The tears had welled during Josh's round but by now they streamed freely. Mixing with sweat, they coursed down my face which worsened them as it sank in I was performing below my capability.<br />
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Coach found me as I was wiping down my gear. He told me to smile and that I'd done well. He wouldn't have lied to me, but I knew he was also trying to keep it in perspective. I responded with something like, "It was my worst day." And he said something I'll probably never forget:<br />
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With the final bell, I collapsed, turtled up, and began sobbing. Malik pulled my headgear off and sat across from me. I don't remember what he said other than I had done well and she would never hit me as hard as he had and that I'd weathered it.<br />
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Today was fine until around 7:30 when I hadn't eaten much all day and it hit me. Had a protein shake before the gym, a KILLER good protein bar called <a href="http://perfectbar.com/products/" target="_blank">Perfect Bar</a> (they are pretty perfecto), then a huge salad in the car, and some cold brew right before conditioning and thai pads. So not a lot. I felt good but definitely needed some grub. </div>
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Tonight in class Coach told my partner Josh that they found him an opponent. Earlier in the night he'd told me he was getting down about being in camp so long and the probability of them finding him an opponent in time growing slimmer. His punches were cleaner, harder, and he had an energy about him after Coach told him. </div>
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I'm about to apply for a job that would put me overseas for two years. It would likely start sometime next year. This would halt my training. For someone who is 27 1/2 and has been training just shy of two years, this will likely be my best chance to compete. Muay Thai is a small window for fighting. Jiu jitsu can last a lifetime. </div>
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Since I'll definitely be coming back to these posts whether or not I fight again, this is that day in camp called W<i>hat the Fuck Am I Doing?</i> Like I have this friend who's moving to Africa for two years and I have training every night so can't leave town to see him before he goes and probably won't get to see him again for a long time and that's majorly bumming me out. I quit a job to be able to train more and ended up quitting another job since it was affecting my shoulder (and overall happiness in life...). I'm hesitant to just find another since it's become a debilitating cycle of not knowing what I want to do in life. If there's one thing I need in life to get anything done it's a GOAL. Like solid, challenging, concrete goals. </div>
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I keep jumping from one job to the next, and normally I stay at jobs for a while. I'm having a mid-life crisis at 27. You know, I didn't do what I went to university for because I went without knowing what I wanted to do. So I job-hopped the last three and a half years but never have gotten into doing anything I really love except coaching. I'm stuck. Do I stay here and get a normal life and make money and train or should I do what I've always wanted to and travel and do whatever work I can find? </div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">I've totally hit rock bottom with this. Seeing everyone this weekend who loves jiu jitsu and training pads with my teammates for our fight yesterday has me hesitant to leave a place I love and learn so much for a pipe dream. I get lonely and moody and bored and depressed when I'm alone, even travelling. I <i>have </i>to have alone time but also need people to converse with and something to learn and to be active and athletic. Those are hard to come by when travelling/living away from anyone you're close to.</span></div>
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Today marks two weeks until weigh-ins. I haven't cried after sparring yet, but am waiting for it. Maybe not for this fight, but I still am only breaking into hard-sparring. Caroline said it would come.<br />
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Zach Maslany of 10th Planet Bethlehem/Finishers MMA and our resident ass Scott taught tonight. Scott is the guy in a war movie who is a total asshole sergeant but would probably do anything for one of his men.<br />
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Note to self: : evening- bedtime is the witching hour for food and eating.Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-37905686009584717752016-11-01T00:49:00.000-04:002016-11-01T00:49:06.384-04:00Tight MondaysToday I ate less for breakfast which seemed to be good. After drinking a little over a gallon of water all day, I was 160.2 when I got to the gym at 5:45 and 156.4 by the time I left. I've been unable to cut below 156 since camp started so headed to LA Fitness and sat in the sauna in a hoodie and running leggings to melt for 20 minutes. I only cut to 154.2 but that's below my weigh-in requirement so I immediately drank 2 quarts of water and headed to the grocery store.<br />
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The worst part of the gym was from the first time I threw a cross and Malik told me my elbow was out. I couldn't loosen it up. Then on the double-ender bag Coach was trying to get me to roll my shoulders and stay long. I knew what he meant but my shoulder wouldn't co-operate. It's too tight and the muscles won't release my arm to go straight- it has me doing this stupid thing where my elbow goes out and makes my punch weak. It is incredibly frustrating and exhausting. I've teared up several times this camp because of my shoulder being fucked. It gets in the way and makes improvement in that area nearly impossible because on a basic functional, physical level I'm not able to throw a punch correctly. It's painful sometimes, but not like it used to be. It's the physical incapacitation that makes my eyes go all watery.<br />
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Another issue is my breathing. I've gotten decent at controlling my heart rate through breathing but since I'm still fighting a cold, my nose clogs just enough where I can't get a deep breath.<br />
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There's really not a lot I can do to fix either of these things before the fight. Sleep more. Sleep on my back. No sugar. Go to the chiropractor. Get a massage. Sauna/hot tub. It all helps, but my shoulder seems to be pretty bad. If I lay on my back and place my right arm behind it, the scapula bone protrudes so much it lifts my entire upper back off the ground to sit on the bone.<br />
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P.S. If you're wondering, "Does drinking that much water make you have to pee a lot?" The answer is, yes. Yes it does.<br />
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<br />Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-70554224529348707692016-10-31T00:19:00.000-04:002016-10-31T00:19:10.156-04:00Overall- 3 Weeks BluesThree weeks from today, God-willing, I'll have fought.<br />
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This weekend was frustrating. It's still three weeks away, which is a little over half-way through camp. I expected that by cutting out processed sugar (i.e. chocolate, ice cream, everything I love), dairy, gluten, alcohol, fried foods, and eating out that I'd lose weight easier. I upped my water intake from around 1.5-2 gallons/day to 2+ gallons/day which likely plays a roll but <i>still. </i>If the apocalypse happens I'm set because despite working three jobs on my feet all day and going to the gym every day but Sunday, my metabolism is the equivalent of a large whale slumped on the bottom of the ocean that's eaten too much.<br />
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Then there's the fact that my face has a couple pimples on it here and there since camp started- something that rarely happens normally. I also have little energy and constantly feel full. Coach suggested I start eating breakfast to get my metabolism going which I did about three weeks ago but most days I have very little appetite. The one day I tried to wait until mid-afternoon when I started to feel hungry, I was light-headed and my body hadn't had a chance to process and utilize what I'd eaten.<br />
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Despite the weirdness overall, the last two weeks sparring have been my best yet. This December marks two years at the gym and February will be two years of Muay Thai. I didn't spar much until this summer though due to a couple jiu jitsu tournaments and injuries afterward. I do feel clearer mentally. My heart races less and I feel less moody and out of it at the gym. Better focus.<br />
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I'm just plain tired a lot though. My one day job is physically demanding and ruining my already bad shoulders. It's shit mentally since I spend the whole time thinking about how fucked my shoulder is and how I'm going to get out of there. It's the worst job I've ever had.<br />
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Going in, I knew my personal life was pretty messy and would be until after my fight at least. I was also aware my body has a tendency to fail and be weird (not respond well to diet changes). Despite this, I knew I'd regret not taking a fight. There was likely going to be no way to take a fight and not deal with these issues; be it now or in the future.<br />
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- experiment with diets before camp (is it worth it in some world for me to skip dessert?)<br />
- have a set work schedule that won't change during camp<br />
- enjoy working enough where I don't consider quitting the entire time I'm working<br />
- plan out off-day workouts in advance<br />
- set up times with teammates before the week starts to hit pads before/after class<br />
- keep food <i>simple </i>and portion out before the week<br />
- make sure I have a day off from work to de-stress and train for fun<br />
- go to the chiropractor every other week during camp<br />
- record sparring sessions<br />
- get 7-8 hrs of sleep, especially Tuesday and Wednesdays before sparring Thursdays<br />
<br />Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-63844095217050523402016-10-27T23:00:00.000-04:002016-10-27T23:00:06.413-04:00Sparring- 3 Weeks OutTonight went better than last week, which was better than any other week. Thank God I wasn't as sick and have been slowly defeating the head cold.<br />
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It's hard to balance not chasing someone down and also not standing there and doing nothing which leads to getting hit. It's a lot to remember and think about. Takes time to make it more instinctual.<br />
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My one allowance food-wise is that every Thursday I visit my grandmother and while I've managed to figure out timing enough to not be there for lunch or dinner, I cannot escape her offer to feed me Milano cookies. For some reason she loves to have me eat a cookie. Always has. Always will. I figure since I spend the other 167 hours of the week trying to devour as much squash, quinoa, lettuce, and beets as possible, my training and habits shouldn't be too affected by a couple cookies. It didn't seem to hurt sparring tonight.<br />
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Learning to spar light is difficult. It's intended to be technically sound and paced differently than hard or medium sparring. Hard sparring I'm still mostly trying to survive and throw at least a couple solid combos. Knocked knees hard with Jhordan tonight. "<i>Fuck, fuck, fuck," </i>I winced and stepped back. In a fight I wouldn't, but I'd never been nailed like that before and wanted to assess it once so next time it happens I know I'm fine. A lot of training is simply getting used to knocks and pressure. You have to first get used to being uncomfortable.<br />
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I used to tap a lot in rolling when it just became uncomfortable to not breathe. Now Coach yells at me that I wait too long when I'm being heel-hooked. last a little longer most times when a 220lb. (or more) dude has crushed the air out of my lungs and I take the smallest breaths I can while trying to make small adjustments to escape. Still haven't gotten to that equivalent point in sparring though. I turn away or shell up when getting hit and just stand there.<br />
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The other issue is that my emotions dictate my technique. It's my personality to be cool with whatever status-quo is for the moment but if someone ups the ante (or stops doing their job properly, say at work), I'll immediately react. As if my subconscious is always on her toes waiting for the moment she can unleash. Unfortunately she does not unleash with a whole lot of skill behind her aggression which costs me against a more skilled opponent.<br />
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Overall a good night. Drank a lot of water and Coach is content with my weight. Left at 158.4 tonight, so a little over two pounds away from fight weight. Icing my knee tonight in hopes it won't swell for a double shift of work tomorrow.<br />
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Some days are good but today was not one of them. After Monday when my teammate Jake loosened my sub-scapula from the clutches of my lat muscles, I felt amazing. So loose and strong. Today was far from that. A new assignment at work that started today is aggressively worsening my shoulder to the point where I'm considering finding another job.</div>
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Knee pain during squats from poor form caused by a lingering ankle issue that happened in February on vacation. It's also noticeably affecting my left kick since Muay Thai kicks are thrown with the shin using power from the hip- a rotation that somewhat occurs off of the right ankle. Below is how it's done. </div>
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Adding insult to injury, probably literally, I haven't been sleeping well again. The hardest part of training occurs in the mind, not the body usually. If your mind is right, all else follows. If the opposite is true, the body follows suit. My personal life is currently changing and I am considering even bigger changes down the not-so-distant road which keeps me up at night wondering what I'm doing as I put together an application. </div>
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Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-74534523266309899882016-10-22T23:44:00.002-04:002016-10-22T23:44:58.731-04:00Filthy Fifty & Fighting for Love<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Saturdays are rough, man. After working doubles Fridays, I usually get up to hit the market to buy groceries for the week (<a href="http://www.fisherhillfarm.com/gallery" target="_blank">Fisher Hill Farm</a> and their beets have been my favorite for a couple years now). I'll get coffee and then head to Combat Conditioning. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">It could have been worse, honestly. I hacked half the time but other than some congestion am pretty ok. I broke some of them up to ease up on losing form for my shoulder. Afterwards I rowed 4K on the erg for some steady state/metabolism boost and then a fellow fighter Josh was nice enough to hold Thai pads for three rounds. He'd been up since 4AM working. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Josh doesn't have to do that. He doesn't have to pay what we pay to come do workouts like we do, get black eyes in sparring, and hold pads for a teammate on a Saturday morning. He doesn't have to work shitty hours around when the gym is open. Most of us don't have to have odd hours at work, <i>miss </i>hours at work (money in our pockets), miss happy hour, possible relationships, dinner with friends, or whatever it is people do after work. None of us technically have to do that. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">For most of us, it's a stage of life we're in. Late-twenties, early thirties before serious relationships and settling down. It sucks balls to miss an 80 degree summer night of bridge jumping, or saying no to a guy who asks you out to dinner, or friends you barely get to see anymore because you're paying to learn how to straight ankle lock someone, if you're lucky. If you're not lucky, your neck gets cracked the wrong way and you have to spend precious free hours paying to see your chiropractor. <i>If you're lucky. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Some of us have had concussions, surgery, or are perpetually taped up. Coach walks with a limp. Coach Wally visits two chiropractors more than anyone I've ever met. And they roll with us, AND they do workouts with us plus extra on their own. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">None of us have to do it, and none of us ever say it to each other, but unspoken, we're there and we stay because we love it. Because our gym people are good people and they become like family. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I've been having weird dreams lately. I've </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">dreamt about my fight a couple of times. Shadowy recollections of strange scenarios where I missed my fight, or something went wrong before-hand. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">One of my greatest obstacles in life, and it took seeing this in another person I loved to see it in myself, is that I fear losing something I love. So I always hold back in reserve. I fear investing time and energy and love into something that will fail. <i>That I will fail. </i>I'll fail to follow-through, change my mind, not train hard enough; fall in love and it won't be reciprocated. Or I'll have been so set against love for so long out of fear that I'll be hurt more by loving something I'll lose that I won't even consider opening up to the notion. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">At the end of the day, I love training. I fear writing about it will somehow mark the acceptance that I've come to so deeply love something and I'll shirk and lose that feeling. As if speaking of it makes it vanish or lose its value</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">But I'm also at the point where my heart is growing tired of almost loving something and me pulling away. Or perhaps I've only dabble in infatuations, afraid to love deeply. Or maybe nothing before has been something to wholly give myself over to. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">So I said yes to this fight, even though I am afraid. And I've written a couple letters for once putting sentiment to paper, even though I am afraid. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Because any time you break anything down to its purpose, it appears to be love. It's hard to argue what you should choose in any situation with a fact such as that. </span>Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-34336932039282794782016-10-20T22:55:00.002-04:002016-10-20T22:55:14.811-04:001 Month 'til Fight- Sparring Night- Will One Fight Be EnoughWednesdays I work double shifts at two jobs and can only make it to LA Fitness for a quick workout between jobs. I run home, let the dog out and grab some lunch (pre-made) and eat in the car on the way to the gym. I'll get a workout from my conditioning coach or one off <a href="https://www.onnit.com/academy/training/" target="_blank">Onnit Academy</a>. Coach Wally uses a lot of their workouts which utilize more strength-in-motion training...sort of. It uses things like mace bells, weighted bats, and sandbags. Awesome for form.<br />
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<i>Thursdays</i>, however, is sparring night. This morning I woke up at 4AM sick and was still sick by 8AM so called into work. It was either I could make it through work ( though I'd done most of today's work yesterday) or I could probably rest and make it through sparring. Our coaches are strict on not showing up sick because you could infect your training partners and put them out enough to miss their fight which is the worst thing you can do to someone half-way through camp. But I felt like if I slept, drank a lot of water, and medicated myself with oregano oil, Sambucol, Corelife Eatery with a lot of local red miso in it... I could be all right by 6PM for striking. It worked. I probably would have gotten sicker being at work. I read some Wendell Berry essays this morning which really helped me relax (something I rarely make a prioritize- actually, make that never prioritize...), watched <i>"</i>Warrior" and read <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Fighters-Heart-Journey-Through-Fighting/dp/0802143431" target="_blank"><i>A Fighter's Heart</i></a> by Sam Sheridan for a couple seconds.<br />
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Sparring went the best it could have. Coach Wally sparred with me twice and went over teeps again which might be invaluable this fight. Malik pummeled me again. This was the first time I'd felt like I just wanted it to be over. Like, if this were a fight, I'd be thinking, "Is this ever going to end? <i>How long can he keep this up for?" </i>That's What She Said jokes aside, you really don't give a fuck when you're getting punched over and over and over. It wasn't hard, just constant pressure that makes it hard to get punches in. I felt less sloppy overall. More controlled. Last week Coach said I'm aggressive enough, which women tend to have a hard time with usually, but I get emotional and am easier to read when he's hit me so I tried to keep my cool more. Kept my hands up. Looked for openings, read where a combo might work...<br />
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There's a line somewhere of going all out too soon and gassing yourself and then holding back too much.<br />
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It was the last night my friend Caroline, who has fought five times, was at the gym before leaving for the state trooper academy in Albany. She is the only girl with enough experience to spar with. There's several benefits of sparring with her:<br />
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Guys are fine to train with- they're awesome. You get used to pressure, being hit hard by someone sometimes a lot bigger than you or more skilled is invaluable. But women fight differently than men and size makes a difference. My opponent is so much shorter I could kick over her head and miss entirely. Or, I could go to throw a cross to the body but she's much lower so I get nailed in the face. In this case, an upper has been a lot more effective. It's not on the guys, but on Caroline it works.<br />
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To be honest for a second, watching "Warrior" and reading helped me slow down and think about what I'm doing. I'm a huge asker of <i>why. </i>Why are we here? What are we doing with our time, our money? What is important? Does what we think is important and what we want line up with how we use our time/money/energy?<br />
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I started training because of curiosity; it was something I'd considered for a long time. Self-defense is priceless to women. But then it became an escape for this ongoing heartbreaking relationship I had with a guy I worked with. Now it's become something I need and love. My team is a family to me. This would probably break my mom's heart, but I am closer with my coaches and teammates than anyone in my family now. They're what families should be. They push you, choke you and crush you, knee you in the gut so you drop to the mat gasping, support you, and laugh and cry with you.<br />
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My one coach constantly teases me about dumb questions I already know and gets on me about shit, like not remembering the warm-ups. But when I sobbed pathetically after losing my first grappling tournament he hugged me and said I did well. My dad wasn't interested in coming. It still hurt a little, but I've mostly accepted he has his own issues and there's other people I'm lucky enough to have. Anytime I can I attend teammate's fights because I've watched them work hard, trained alongside them, and want to be in their corner for them on their day.<br />
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After sparring tonight, I was considering that if I by some miracle got this job I'm applying for that would send me overseas for 2 years, would I go? And is the gym a good enough reason to stay? Would I be leaving something I deeply value and love too early? Caroline was at the gym for four years and fought five times. Would one fight be enough for me, I wonder?Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-13728915950227864502016-10-18T23:15:00.002-04:002016-10-18T23:15:28.199-04:001 Day, 1 Month 'til the Fight<i>Slap, slap, slap, slap.</i><br />
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My sweat-soaked braided ponytail hits my back as I trot to the bathroom for what seems like the thirtieth time today. Drinking around 2 gallons of water a day will do that.<br />
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Tonight was fun, though. Had a chiropractor appointment after work, grabbed coffee at my favorite spot, Ugly Duck (which my phone sometimes auto-corrects to Ugly Fuck when I text people), and headed to the gym at 5pm.<br />
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5- 6pm Combat conditioning<br />
6- 7pm Thai pads/striking<br />
7- 8pm jiu jitsu<br />
8- 9pm grappling/rolling<br />
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I felt good today after rolling last night so decided to roll for half of grappling tonight. Could use to sweat out some water weight and practice. Almost everyone else in camp leaves after class so I figure at least I'm working if not hitting bags.<br />
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It was a huge relief to see the numbers lower on the scale after every class. By 9pm, after 25' on the spin bike after rolling, I'd cut from 160.8 to 156.0. With the weigh-ins you get a pound of wiggle room so I could have weighed in tonight for the fight and been on weight which is great a month out. It's nerve-wracking though. Women's bodies are different than men's.<br />
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Every three weeks our bodies just flip out hormonally and sometimes it's predictable but we're always changing so one menstrual cycle could have your body retaining a lot of water for a few days and the next could not. There's a lot of different outcomes so unlike men, we can't just skate by in case our bodies decide to hold on to three or four pounds for a few days. That could have us over-weight for a weigh- in when in 24 hours we could be below weight. All because of hormones.<br />
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<br />Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4160667014814817108.post-27313591093755969362016-10-17T23:49:00.003-04:002016-10-17T23:49:42.519-04:00Training: A Case of the MondaysTraining went well tonight, albeit it takes a long time after a day and a half off to warm up.<br />
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Started the day with a 20' jog with the dog, worked, felt totally drained around 3PM and tried to nap with the dog while the chicken and beets were in the oven. #MEALPREPPER. Then hit pads before class with a teammate Malik who is on the same card as I am. Stayed for advanced jiu jitsu/rolling to sweat a little water weight out. My memory isn't as sharp on our warm-up technique having skipped some days to hit bags. The shoulder also tends to flare up after rolling which makes other conditioning and striking more difficult so I've laid off jiu jitsu more to focus on technique and work for my fight.<br />
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Lesson of the day: eating a 1/4 c. of roasted garlic to stave off an impending sick feeling before the gym is not a great move. Case in point:<br />
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Scott: "You smell like...kerosene."<br />
Me: I think you mean garlic...<br />
Scott [sniffs]: That's it!<br />
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Yesterday a teammate challenged me via Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jesse_smash/" target="_blank">@jesse_smash)</a> to 100 kicks for 7 days to raise awareness for drunk driving (somehow it helps...). If nothing more it gets me doing 700 extra kicks this week alone. So just for kicks (for shits and giggles?), after jiu jitsu I went to LA Fitness.<br />
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When Coach said he wouldn't promote me to yellow belt until I fixed my cross it became the bane of my existence. The harder I try to fix something like that the worse it gets. Tensing up is horrible for form because a lot of it is just staying loose and rolling relaxed shoulders into punches. So I practiced kicks a lot instead since I couldn't seem to get my cross right without being watched and corrected. They've gotten decent as a result. Tight hips are common in training and while mine are tight someways, my groin/psoas muscle allows for head kicks which can be a great weapon in a fight.<br />
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In Muay Thai, one kicks with their shins since it's the hardest part of the leg and with the leg acting as a pendulum from the hip, the damage can be devastating to a liver or head. At first, the kicks can be painful. I have knots of tissue on my shins but they don't bruise much anymore. The nerve endings eventually die and it stops hurting. Like a broken heart. Oh, damn... But really, it's ideal for inflicting damage.<br />
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All in all, feeling loose. Just gotta get this garlic out of my system.<br />
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<br />Jesse Horninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10243523424696289736noreply@blogger.com0